Before the Play is Done

Attitude of Gratitude, leaving a legacy, self improvement, The creative urge, The Inspired Life


MY soul, sit thou a patient looker-on;
Judge not the play before the play is done:
Her plot hath many changes; every day
Speaks a new day; the last act crowns the play.

Frances Quarles


From the first moment that I met Margaret, I was blown away. It was my first day of watercolor class in college and I was anxious, frightened and fidgeting with all of my shiny new supplies while waiting for students and the teacher to arrive. One glance around the room had already told me that I was in over my head, that there was much more talent surrounding me than I had bargained for. The class was a combination class. Newbies like me jumped in at the beginning and tried to keep up as more accomplished artists painted around them. The theory was that by observing others, there would be more growth. Yeah right, I was going to look like a preschooler with finger-paint.

I began re-packing my things. With five minutes to spare, I figured I could withdraw from the class, no harm done and go sign up at the local park district, where I belonged, before anyone had even realized I was in the room.

Then she burst in.

She was tall, and rim-rod straight, with perfect posture that a soldier would pay good money for. She pulled behind her a cart with three large cases filled, presumably, with art supplies and canvases. “Good MORNING everybody,” she boomed in a huge strong voice. “IT is a BeaUTiful day.” she marched over to a table and bustling about in a flurry of energy, began unpacking everything from the cases.

I sat.

I tried to keep my mouth from hanging open.

Margaret’s hair was silver-gray, piled on to the very top of her head, wound in a long braided bun. Her face wore the road map of many years and many troubles, with lines upon lines intersecting with each other. My brain struggled to keep up with the information it was receiving. The hair, the wrinkles, the thin blue skin with whispers of veins running through it, all spoke of a woman at the end of her life. She had to be in her nineties. But the voice, the posture, the energy, the vibrancy which radiated out of her being screamed No way. This is youth, not age, she can’t be as old as she looks.

I was wrong. She was 93 years old.

The story of Margaret unfolded bit by bit that semester. I learned more about the illusion of age then I did about how to be a great painter in those 16 weeks. And I was grateful for the lesson.  Margaret was an amazing artist. What she could do with a little brush and pots of paint was astounding. Her paintings were hanging in galleries and selling for $4000.00 each for an original. She came to paint in class with us just for the fun of being around people. She had never even picked up a paintbrush until her late 70’s after her beloved husband had passed away. Then with her children grown and no one at home, she decided to go to college and get a degree. A random art class had led to painting and she never stopped.

I asked her what her secret to long life was.

“Never stop learning” she said. “Keep trying something new. You have to make mistakes and figure things out. Oh, and be stubborn. I’m very stubborn. Oh..and don’t forget to walk. I walk every day.” Margaret was big on walking. Every day, she hauled in twice as much stuff as the rest of us. She parked at the far end of the parking lot and walked briskly to the room. She had two big dogs at home that she claimed to walk every day after her morning meditations.

If you asked her if she wanted help with something, you could expect to get glared at. She may have been a sweet, old lady, but she was unwaveringly independent. She didn’t believe in being beholden to anyone, for anything. She was proud, strong and fiercely young at heart.

I lost contact with Margaret after that semester. I finished the class and moved on with my life. Margaret stayed in school for another 4 years, painting in that same room and making a decent living from selling her art. I was saddened to open the local newspaper one morning to see the headline begin with “Oldest College Student has Died…” with a picture of Margaret and one of my personal favorite paintings on the front page.  She had still been in school at 97 years old.

Next week, I will turn 48. As I begin the march up the “Over the Hill”, and the second act of my life’s “play,” I am starting to get very excited. The teasing about fifty looming in the near future has begun, but it means nothing to me. When I think of Margaret, I feel like a baby bird barely sprouting wings. There is a very long list written down on my “things I want to do while I’m still breathing” list and I’m adding new ones all the time. Before the final curtian comes down in my final act, there is much I want to do, much I want to see.

I feel like a kid at the Baskin and Robbins Ice cream store and I want to try all 31 flavors.  I don’t want to miss anything. I want to know that I have tasted every drop, inhaled every fragrance, and touched every soft and wooly item. Lord, let me experience all that Life has to offer and not miss it in my daily round. Don’t let me wander through life unaware.

Never Stop Learning… Margaret’s secret to a long life. Good advice, and I haven’t forgotten it. All the world is a beautiful school with classrooms in every corner, just waiting to teach anything we are willing to learn, as long as we are willing to listen, down to the last day. We can start over at any time, re-write our scripts, begin a new scene, maybe even come up with a surprise ending.

It’s never too late if you’re breathing. What do you want to know? What do you want to do?  How are you going to get there?


15 thoughts on “Before the Play is Done

  1. You are no where near the “Over the Hill” phase of your life! I think you are going to be a lot like Margaret as you grow wiser each passing year! You have already taught me things that I can never say thank you enough for!

  2. Wow! What a powerful post. I’m coming up behind you at 44 and life just keeps getting sweeter. Thank you for sharing your experience with Margaret, it was truly inspiring!

  3. Wendi,

    What a lovely remembrance of your friend.

    “It’s never too late if you’re breathing.” That is just super. It reminds me of the song “Get Up and Go” by Pete Seeger… “I’d rather be huffing than no puffs at all.”

    With a sense of humor, a definite stubbornness, and a curiosity about life, I hope I can keep going until I’m in my nineties, too. I’ll surely try.



  4. Kelly, I haven’t heard that song, I’ll have to go check it out! Thanks for coming over here! I hope you come often, we are getting a nice group over here.

    I think most of the fun is in the trying anyway, so even if we don’t make it to our nineties, what the heck, We will have had fun trying!

  5. Wendi,

    This was a very nice story today, very touching. When we stop learning, we stop growing, and we stop sharing. When I started studying engineering 20 years ago, I remember the very first class of my first day.

    There was an older woman, probably about 60 years old (she never did say), sitting about middle of the lecture hall. A lot of the students were snickering about the “old lady”. At that time too, engineering was about 75 percent men (not so now, which is a great thing!) so of course there were other jokes too.

    I asked her one time if she planned to practice, and she said, “no, she just wanted to study engineering and get a degree”. I thought that was great.

    Funny thing is, 4 years later, she graduated, and some of the guys who laughed at her had failed out.

    She got a standing ovation at the convocation ceremony. It was wonderful.

  6. Brett,

    That is wonderful! It is people like her that really inspire me. And make me smile.

    Thanks for sharing that story. You should write about her!

  7. yup, I’m in the choir, heck I’m sweeping the floor and air guitaring with the broom after the chior is done singing haha! I was fortunate to meet several amazing people like your friend in my art classes and like you, I have some solid role models to inspire me.

    I think the absolute number one rule of art, bar none, is that art is subjective, and that means, no one, not even a 4 grand a painting painter, can claim to be a ‘better’ artist than you. They can claim to be richer than you, more popular, but not better because better is a value judgement and art is subjective. 😛

    All artists are peers, not competitors, I wish more people understood that!

    Nice work as always Wendi!

  8. Wendi,
    I love the story of Margaret. She certainly embodied the concept of grabbing life by the horns, eh?

    I turned 50 last year. I was beyond excited, and it has been freeing for me. I find I have less tolerance for BS, for wasting time, for worrying about what anyone may think of me. I am, finally, me … even if I’m not entirely sure who that is yet. The journey, in many ways, has just begun.

    Thanks for sharing this with us today. Once again, you’ve struck a chord.

  9. Wendi,

    I’m glad you liked that story too – I felt it was time to share that experience. You know, perhaps I will write about her (and link back to you 🙂 )

  10. Hi Wendi,

    Well, lessons learned from my being sick, have a few posts ready to go. Tei’s been banging her fists on the desk asking for more, and I don’t want to disappoint my readers. I figure I will probably write about 4 or 5 posts on the weekend to get me going again… 🙂

  11. Amazing Post! I am only 29 years old, but I am learning new and exciting things moment, by moment. The most important thing for me is to learn who I am and what drives me — so I can be the best me for this beautiful world God created. Never stop learning is a principle I live by!

  12. Wendi, This is… incredible. Not only is it so deeply inspiring, it is written perfectly. Every word… just perfect.

    I’ve always had this little vision of myself as an old lady… I’m barefoot in a garden late at night with long silver hair. Maybe it’s not me, maybe it’s someone else, but it’s a really strong image. This reminds me of that. You’re very lucky to have known Margaret and this is a touching and inspiring tribute to her. Thank you for sharing it with us. Stories like this fill me with hope.

  13. Melissa,
    Thank you, that is very kind praise, Wow, I treasure that, coming from the one that I go to for writing class. 🙂
    The barefoot garden godess. She sounds beautiful. Does she speak? I bet she has very important things to say.

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