Comments on: Listening With Ears Wide Open http://wendikelly.wordpress.com/2008/05/08/listening/ What is Art, Other than a Window to the Soul... Sun, 06 Dec 2009 18:26:08 +0000 http://wordpress.com/ hourly 1 By: wendikelly http://wendikelly.wordpress.com/2008/05/08/listening/#comment-512 wendikelly Thu, 22 May 2008 16:01:52 +0000 http://wendikelly.wordpress.com/?p=60#comment-512 Hi Karen! THanks for coming out of Lurking and joining in the community! Welcome! Have a seat round the table and someone will get you something warm and delicious to drink! I would be honored if you would consider subscribing and becoming a regular around here! My wonderful John ( HI honey) is a very focused man. If he isn't looking at me, he isn't listening. He can't be looking at his computer and hear me at the same time. I KNOW that about him and yet I yammer on while he's reading his e-mail and I'm doing the dishes. Now, I ask you, WHY do I DO that???? Probably for the same reason I talk to my dog Maggie while he's at work. I just talk out loud. When I have something important to talk to him about, I make sure we are face to face on the couch or out to dinner, eyeball to eyeball. Then he is a GREAT listener, again, because he is very focused, now he is just focused on me-which I like. :) PS. About that one-ear hearing thing- I am rather hard of hearing too, and one ear is better than the other. I do think it makes me appreciate listening more. I have to concentrate hard to listen, I have to focus more, look right at someone's face because often I am also reading their lips to be sure I have really heard accuratly. I hope that people with great hearing appreciate the gift that it is. Hi Karen! THanks for coming out of Lurking and joining in the community! Welcome! Have a seat round the table and someone will get you something warm and delicious to drink!
I would be honored if you would consider subscribing and becoming a regular around here!

My wonderful John ( HI honey) is a very focused man. If he isn’t looking at me, he isn’t listening. He can’t be looking at his computer and hear me at the same time. I KNOW that about him and yet I yammer on while he’s reading his e-mail and I’m doing the dishes. Now, I ask you, WHY do I DO that????

Probably for the same reason I talk to my dog Maggie while he’s at work. I just talk out loud.

When I have something important to talk to him about, I make sure we are face to face on the couch or out to dinner, eyeball to eyeball. Then he is a GREAT listener, again, because he is very focused, now he is just focused on me-which I like. :)

PS. About that one-ear hearing thing- I am rather hard of hearing too, and one ear is better than the other. I do think it makes me appreciate listening more. I have to concentrate hard to listen, I have to focus more, look right at someone’s face because often I am also reading their lips to be sure I have really heard accuratly. I hope that people with great hearing appreciate the gift that it is.

]]> By: Karen Wallace http://wendikelly.wordpress.com/2008/05/08/listening/#comment-509 Karen Wallace Wed, 21 May 2008 07:55:16 +0000 http://wendikelly.wordpress.com/?p=60#comment-509 Hi Wendi, It's time for me to stop lurking and say Hi - what a great reminder and terrific post. Thank you. The conversation and comments have been interesting too. I have noticed that my husband's attention wanders a little sometimes... and I have been known to start talking about flying bananas and the pink polka-dotted elephant that visited me today. Eventually he reengages with a "sorry love, what was that?" We've been married long enough I dont take offence. Serves me right for trying to get my daily word allocation in as soon as he walks in the door :) I find I am a better listener when I am aware that I am starting my own reaction/ response to their words. Once I know what I am doing, I can stop and bring my focus back to them. PS I only hear in one ear, does that give me a dispensation? ;-) Hi Wendi,
It’s time for me to stop lurking and say Hi – what a great reminder and terrific post. Thank you. The conversation and comments have been interesting too.

I have noticed that my husband’s attention wanders a little sometimes… and I have been known to start talking about flying bananas and the pink polka-dotted elephant that visited me today. Eventually he reengages with a “sorry love, what was that?” We’ve been married long enough I dont take offence. Serves me right for trying to get my daily word allocation in as soon as he walks in the door :)

I find I am a better listener when I am aware that I am starting my own reaction/ response to their words. Once I know what I am doing, I can stop and bring my focus back to them.

PS I only hear in one ear, does that give me a dispensation? ;-)

]]> By: Digging for Gold: The Search For Buried Treasure: beplayful.org http://wendikelly.wordpress.com/2008/05/08/listening/#comment-474 Digging for Gold: The Search For Buried Treasure: beplayful.org Fri, 16 May 2008 11:00:10 +0000 http://wendikelly.wordpress.com/?p=60#comment-474 [...] Every person you meet has a story to tell, the dreams that have come true, their dreams that have died, the fears that plague them, the rhythms of inner joy and peace or hatred and loss that mark their face. Each has treasure within their soul to share if only we would have the courage and take the time to stop and listen. [...] [...] Every person you meet has a story to tell, the dreams that have come true, their dreams that have died, the fears that plague them, the rhythms of inner joy and peace or hatred and loss that mark their face. Each has treasure within their soul to share if only we would have the courage and take the time to stop and listen. [...]

]]> By: The Art of Conversation: beplayful.org http://wendikelly.wordpress.com/2008/05/08/listening/#comment-455 The Art of Conversation: beplayful.org Tue, 13 May 2008 08:55:32 +0000 http://wendikelly.wordpress.com/?p=60#comment-455 [...] listening means listening fully and carefully to what they other person is saying, both in their words, their body language, [...] [...] listening means listening fully and carefully to what they other person is saying, both in their words, their body language, [...]

]]> By: David http://wendikelly.wordpress.com/2008/05/08/listening/#comment-436 David Sat, 10 May 2008 13:35:31 +0000 http://wendikelly.wordpress.com/?p=60#comment-436 Wendi, This is a brilliant post. I've sometimes been told that I'm a good listener, but I think most of the time I do forget to listen to others. If everyone was a good listener, it really could change the world. Wendi,

This is a brilliant post. I’ve sometimes been told that I’m a good listener, but I think most of the time I do forget to listen to others. If everyone was a good listener, it really could change the world.

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